How to Maneuver Through a Latin Woman's Mood Swings
One minute you’re the greatest guy in the whole world. Next, you’re worse than a 3rd world communist dictator. At least that’s how she’s treating you. And why, you may ask? Einstein himself couldn’t even tell you. This is probably one of the main struggles men face when dating a Latina. These women are fierce and will not back down to a fight.
So, how do you deal with a Latin woman’s mood swings? We need the 4 P’s for that.
Presence of mind, Patience, Perseverance and Pampering.
Thankfully, it’s normal for a woman to suddenly act like she loves you and then hates you in the next second. It baffles the male mind, yes. It’s because Latin women – and, generally, almost every woman from all races – enjoy being emotional.
In the workplace, a woman can be as serious and emotionally reasonable as a man, but in her personal life, she may be irritable and throw tantrums around him. One of the reasons for that is because most women like to test the confidence and emotional strength of their partner. This is most especially true in Latin dating culture…
Is he going to crumble and become emotionally sensitive? Will he panic if she starts to act uninterested in him? Get angry and aggressive if he so happens to lose control of his own emotions?
This is why you need the second P – Patience. If you lose control of your own emotions and throw your own tantrum, she will lose respect and attraction for you. But if you can remain calm, you are showing her just how strong and masculine you are – and this is a huge plus for most women from Latin America. Believe it or not, they find this extremely attractive.
So what else can you do to handle her?
1. Give her space
Don’t pester her when she’s in a particularly bratty mood. Ask her what is bothering her only once. If she doesn’t seem too keen on talking about her mood swings, leave her alone, and give her some space. Allow her to take her own time to bounce back to a good mood.
When your Latina girlfriend is having a mood swing, constantly asking her why she is upset is probably the last thing she wants. Regardless of whether her mood swings are due to PMS or not, giving her some space is ideal.
2. Avoid arguing
We’re not saying you should just take it if she starts yelling at you. Sometimes, you just have to let what she says go through one ear and out the other without taking it personally. Some of these women get extremely toxic and say the most horrible and personal things too. What you do in those types of situations is leave. No use being in an abusive relationship, right?
But if your girl isn’t like this and is just genuinely having a bad day, why would you make it worse by arguing with her? Understand from her perspective. A woman who is PMS-ing is literally suffering physical pain and the only outlet she has is causing a tantrum. That, or locking herself in the bathroom, never to emerge until later into the night or when she starts to get hungry.
Luckily they can usually be calmed by affection and food. She’ll also get cuddly, and quite possibly push you away in the next second. Being exasperated is natural at this point, right? But she can also be really cute when she gets all whiny and needy. What’s a man to do but humor her during such a trying time? This is why you need to be emotionally strong when dating a Latina.
3. Food
You two are eating together anyway. Why not get her her favorite just to be nice? She will appreciate it and it will definitely improve her mood. Nothing makes a girl feel better than eating her favorite food. Plus, it will give her the much-needed energy for what she has to go through. Sweets also help a lot. She’s going to have sweet cravings so get her a chocolate bar or some dessert.
4. Pamper her
The easiest way to deal with your partner’s PMS mood swings is to pamper her. A cuddle or a tickle, a back rub or a massage in the bathtub, a hot chocolate or a takeaway from her favorite local food joint. Do the little things that will lift up her spirits immediately.
- Pro-tip: Show her cute cat and dog videos. Women absolutely adore cute animal compilation videos. Seeing adorable kittens and puppies will instantly bring the mood up. You can also go for baby videos. Anything that is cute and/or funny on youtube is a free game.
5. Make her laugh
Crack a joke. Be witty. Deflate her stress and pain by making her laugh. Use your sense of humor to infuse a light mood in her. It will take her mind off certain bodily functions if the mood swing is PMS related. Even if it isn’t, good humor will instantly make her break into a smile.
Plus, laughing together and sharing inside jokes is always a fun time with the person you’re very much in love with. And if it temporarily fixes a problem for her then why not?
Showering her with compliments doesn’t hurt either. Just like how a man’s confidence levels start peaking when a woman strokes his ego, a woman being given nice compliments will boost her own and get her back into a better mood.
6. Empathize
If she vents, listen. Imagine you were in her shoes, having to handle a monthly ritual where her body messes up her pain tolerance and her hormones for nearly a week. It’s no excuse for some women to act like complete monsters, but those who aren’t don’t deserve to be scolded for acting in such a way.
Also, a woman’s mood swings are not always so herculean. Sometimes they’re a result of bottled up emotions and are seeking an outlet. This outlet can be in the form of a moody rant that she needs to let off her chest.
She doesn’t want you to “fix” her
When a man has a problem, he will either discuss it with others to work out a solution or he will come up with a solution on his own, fix it and then get on with life.
But with a Latin woman, when she discusses her own problems with her man, it doesn’t mean she’s trying to find a solution. Sometimes it just feels good to talk about problems, complain a little here and there and offer no solutions to said problems. Isn’t that why most men go out drinking with their buddies too?
Most women are intelligent and aware enough to come up with perfectly good solutions on their own, so they don’t need men to tell them what to do. When your girlfriend brings up a problem that she is having, she usually just wants you to listen to her rant about it.
She doesn’t want you to fix it. What she wants is for you to be there next to her because you offer comfort without really needing to say anything. Just your presence is enough for her. And if she’s comfortable enough with you to rant about anything and everything, isn’t that a sign of her complete trust in you?
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